We shoot pool for a bit longer and then head out to grab something to eat. Our conversation turns to our families and I describe my mom’s side of the family as southern. My date then asks if my family ever owned slaves. (This is probably a good time to mention my date was a black African American.) I’m a bit taken back and say I don’t believe they owned slaves, but it could be possible. He then asks if I feel guilty about slavery. (Really??? Did you just ask me that?) I reply that I have never owned a slave and therefore don’t feel guilty about it. I do say I think slavery is a travesty, but many nations have to go through such tragedies in order to determine their “foundations” and moral boundaries. I believe these historic event, regardless of how inhume and unjust, do help nations find their humanity; however, I don’t feel guilty. My date replies that he is still waiting for his reparation check. For me, the date essentially ended with that conversation. It’s not first date appropriate. Either you are okay dating different races and ethnicities or not.

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I am definitely looking for opinions on this Tornado Dating experience!!!!! I went out on a first date with a guy I met through an online dating site. We met up to shoot pool at a local bar. Very soon after my arrival I was a bit put-off because the guy was very boisterous about money and how “grand” he was. I chalk it up to first date nerves and decide to take it all in stride until he starts trashing another girl in the bar. Some random girl walks up to us and says hi. She says she is waiting to meet some girlfriends and is completely drunk. As she walks away, the guy I just met calls her a crack whore. Although I don’t know her, I find this rude and not acceptable. I tell my date his comment wasn’t nice but decide to continue with the date.

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A very good friend of mine forwarded the below link/audio file about a guy calling a woman he met in a bar or club. The guy is arrogant to say the least and probably a bit off-kilter too, but it definitely fits with the tone and content of this blog.

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Well… I hate to admit, but I’ve been the guy that’s gone for the kiss only to get denied… Two times the girl turns away from it and offers the cheek instead. Another time the girl just awkwardly pulled back… In any case it’s not fun for anyone. To avoid being kissed there’s not many easy ways to avoid it other than what I mentioned. Remember, one armed hugs are your friend. Never two arm embrace a guy you’re not romantically interested in that you know has feelings for you. To that end be sure that when you hang out with these guys that do have a thing for you that you don’t do romantic type dinners. That is, go somewhere maybe a little loud, somewhere distracting. I know it sounds weird, but I really think it works. I’ve done that when going out with exes.

• Belgium Black Daters

I was out last night with Divorcing-Guy, who is now officially divorced. Let me reiterate we are only friends and I have clearly stated my position of not dating to him; however, I do think he has hopes it will evolve to dating. We went out to dinner and caught up. He talked about the girls he is dating and some of the dates I have been on. He asked me over for Thanksgiving, which I declined. At the end of the evening it felt and looked as though he was going to kiss me. I didn’t quite know what to do and ended up doing some crazy head sway until we got to a clear good-bye hug. So what is the process to avoid a kiss? Do you step back or go with the head bob until the moment has passed?

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